Grief is an unwelcome companion many of us carry, often silently. Statistically, around 57% of the U.S. population experience grief, with about 2 million experiencing the loss of a loved one every year, and many continue to function daily while managing the weight of their grief. While we may show up to work, nurture relationships, and go through the motions of life, grief lingers in the background—sometimes subtly, other times with crushing intensity.
Grief Week holds deep significance for me more than ever. This past May, I lost my sister, a devastating tragedy that compounded years of loss. My mom’s four-year death anniversary is on December 7th, and since 2020, I have endured the heartbreaking loss of five family members. Grief isn’t new to me, but each loss has brought its own unique weight and challenges. The journey of learning to move forward while honoring their memories has been overwhelming at times, yet deeply reflective. If you’re here reading this, perhaps you’re carrying your own burden of loss, and I want you to know: you’re not alone.
Giving Ourselves Grace
Grief is not linear. Some days, it feels like you can conquer the world; other days, getting out of bed might be the victory. Wherever you find yourself, know that it’s okay. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. We live in a world that often prioritizes productivity and resilience, but grief doesn’t follow those rules. Allowing ourselves to feel—even when it’s inconvenient or messy—is a radical act of self-compassion.
Ways to Comfort Yourself Through Grief
Here are some gentle ways to support yourself when the weight of grief feels heavy:
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Create Rituals of Remembrance
Light a candle, listen to a song, or spend time in a place that connects you to your loved one. These small acts can bring comfort and help you feel close to their memory. -
Seek Solitude and Connection
Grief can be isolating, but it’s also important to seek connection. Share your feelings with a trusted friend or family member. On the flip side, give yourself permission to carve out moments of solitude when needed. -
Move Your Body
Gentle movement, like a walk or stretching, can help release some of the physical tension grief brings. It doesn’t have to be intense; the key is showing your body kindness. -
Ground Yourself in Routine
Simple routines like making your bed or preparing a nourishing meal can create a sense of stability when everything feels upside down. -
Explore Comfort Practices
Sometimes comfort can be found in the smallest acts—soaking your feet in warm water, curling up with a cozy blanket, or journaling your thoughts and memories. -
Talk to Someone Who Gets It
Whether it’s a therapist or a grief support group, talking to others who understand the complexities of loss can be a lifeline. You’re not meant to carry it alone.
Having Compassion for Others
If you know someone grieving, this is your reminder to be patient. Grief looks different for everyone, and while they might seem “fine” on the outside, their internal world could feel like a storm. A kind word, a meal, or simply being present can mean more than you know.
A Gentle Reminder
As we honor Grief Week, let’s hold space for ourselves and others. Grief is proof of love, even when it feels overwhelming. You don’t have to be “okay” all the time—sometimes just showing up is enough.
If you’re navigating loss, know that I see you and stand with you. Grief doesn’t define us, but it is a part of our story—and from it, we can learn to extend grace, embrace compassion, and find comfort in the smallest, most meaningful moments.